“Recognize that life is a cruel taskmaster and that either you master it, or it masters you. There is no half-way or compromising point. Never accept from life less than what you are capable of obtaining through perseverance and hard work.”Protection Against Drifting
Welcome back to another Weekly Update! It is my goal to give you a bird’s eye view from the perspective of the student, me, of this week events (7/13-7/20) here at Ironwood. We all had a productive and awesome Family Weekend, but now it is time to get back to work in the garden, barn, kitchen, and various other groups here on campus.
All students are up on their feet again, looking ahead and doing well. There have been lots of student transitions after Family Weekend. We all recognize that these events are a catalyst to help us reach our end goal, yet sometimes they create additional hurdles we have to overcome. Speaking of transitions, the boys group received a new member at the Farmhouse this week after a promotion from Frye! We are all excited to show him the ropes and help him start to understand the differences between level 3 and Frye.
In DBT this week, both groups talked about communication skills and learned about a specific strategy called DEAR MAN. It breaks down a step-by-step process on how to respectfully describe and observe a situation you are involved in. For me, this skill helps a lot in family therapy and talking to my peers and staff. We also did an experiential group where we describe our Family Weekend by drawing a photo.
The students at Frye have been taking advantage of the warmer weather and have created a Physical Training enrichment group. Through the week, by efficiently completing daily routine chores, students create free time opportunities where they can engage in a hard, but motivational exercise challenge. It helps me and my peers stay in the moment and to also feel more successful and it is great to have this to work towards.
One of the groups that meant a lot to me this week was Social Skills. I think a lot of others were significantly impacted, as well. The quote I shared above was about protection against drifting, which is what we spoke about in this group. In brief, the drifter will work harder to get out of thinking than most work at maintaining a good living. I sometimes fall into the drifter mindset and I feel like all of us do at some point. “We should all remember our dominating thoughts, attract through a definite law of nature, the shortest and most convenient route, their physical counterpart. Be careful what thoughts you dwell on…”
*Many thanks to our level 4 author for sharing his summary of the week. This young man has grown in confidence so much, especially in recent weeks. His work ethic, resilience and smile…never better!
Have a nice weekend everyone!